and, above all, where start one or the other.

You know that thing in a longlasting relationship, or go out on the street and ask the people: "What´s important for a good relationship?" I bet most of them would say: "To be faithfully is necassary." But not to me. To me, what´s necessary is LOVE.
So, but if you love one, for example my boyfriend, I love who he is, his caracter and his mind. And then, after that, I love his body (but seriously, the body is not that important to me!) But when I love more his mind, I couldn´t be unfaithfull when I have sex with another person, because that´s not a thing that happens with my head but with my body. I love my boyfriend after having a one night stand as much as before, nothing had changed! I could say that because I´m in that situation. So that means, I´m faithfully with my mind?!? And for that physical faith do not exist in that way!?!
So, but maybe, I could be unfaithfully with my mind. Means that I am, if I think of another man. Or if a think a lot of another man. But then you´ve to explain, what kind of thinking, because you might have close friends of which you´re thinking. Ok, that doesn´t count. Not that way you´re thinking of friends. Had to be different thinking. But who devine (does that word exist?) when you start to be thinking in an unfaithfully way of another man. And does in that context count the sentence: "Your mind is free?" Because of this, to many people to think of other people do not mean to be unfaithfully, because nothing happend, like sex or something.
And now I am questioning, does faith exist?
... and if - could anybody be faithfully in every way?
Are you faithfully if you´ve had sex with another man, but you don´t think of him, or
are you faithfully if you´re thinking of another man many times but didn´t have sex with him??

Please, everybody who read this, read my first block, too, to help me to find Ander!!!

Thank you so much!!

Nadine